Sometimes a Sir meets his boy in the most innocent of places. It can be at work. It can be in line at the grocery store. It can even be while they are standing around at the airport waiting to board. The important thing is the connection. Someone says something that alerts the other to the fact that they are in the Lifestyle and the other picks up on the fact that they are. Because not everyone is wearing leather gear, not everyone has tattoos or is flagging to a certain side. Not everyone has their flogger attached to their belt loops like me.
• John Barrowman. Besides being incredibly gorgeous, John Barrowman is a fabulous actor. He's versatile, unabashedly in-your-face, fun and extremely talented. I found out about him when he was on Doctor Who, and it was "stalk-lust-at-first-sight"… I mean … I was a fan at first sight. Yeah. I followed him over toTorchwood, which is a show I'm obsessed with and can recite word-for-word.
When I first learned about the BDSM Lifestyle one of the things that always caught my eye was the age gap between the Dom(me) and the sub. Sometimes there was very little, sometimes the sub would be older, and sometimes the sub would be much, much younger. Perhaps this was so apparent to me at the time because my introduction and training began when I was eighteen, so I was very much on the “baby” side myself (though to hear myself referred as such—even then—makes me shudder). However, I noticed a strange sort of dynamic between certain D/s relationships that wasn’t so readily apparent in others.
How much of the book is realistic?
I wouldn’t say it’s realistic as in I’m a Hispanic man or know of a Hispanic man who works as a campaign manager for a politician. But it’s realistic as in the situations no doubt have occurred, the emotions are real, and the BDSM aspect is very much based on my 13 years in the BDSM Lifestyle, 12 of which I’ve spent being a Dom and one of which I spent training to be one.